In-House Paralegals

OK, let’s really drill down here for a moment.

Suppose you had available specific detailed information about another person’s business position and responsibilities, career background and current aspirations and everything that personal considered important about her or his personal life (likes and dislikes, loved ones, friends, family, recreational activities, hobbies, etc., etc.).

Now let’s assume this person is a co-worker.  Or, even better, your boss.

• Could you be more of a resource to this person?
• Could you position yourself to be more valuable in his eyes?
• Could you better help her achieve whatever she wants to achieve?
• Could you be a more effective assistant for him (or supervisor)?
• Could you communicate more effectively on all levels?
• Could you offer suggestions this person would be more likely to accept?
• Could you be more persuasive?
• Could you be a better personal friend?
• Could you be more effective in referring other people to her?
• Could you adjust your work to increase his satisfaction with it?
• Could you get this person to think of you differently than she does now?
• Could you get him to value your relationship more?
• Could you increase this person’s trust and confidence in you?
• Could you get him or her to seek your advice more often?
• Could you have a greater positive impact on this person’s life?

Hmmm . . .  So now, please complete the following sentence.  “ The important takeaway from this hypothetical and related questions is ________________________________. ”

By the way, it took me much too long and two failed very important relationships before I finally figured out this thing  psychologists often describe as approaching life with an ”other-centered” perspective in order to achieve the outcomes you want.   And, oh yes, I soon discovered this strategy for being highly effective at work also produces miracles at home.